Permit me, if you will, a moment to reminisce about my early childhood.
When I was 3 or 4 years old, I had an imaginary friend. Yes, I'm willing to admit it. (My husband likes to tease me about it, but I just shrug it off. I think it's healthy for a child's intellectual development.) Her name was Leisel. I don't remember how old I was when I stopped 'playing' with my friend Leisel, but eventually I grew out of playing with imaginary friends, and just talked to my boring self instead.
Fast forward 20 years....
I move to a new city, state, ward. I have no friends, but I do have a fabulous husband (who is new to the Navy) and 2 great kids. The youngest was 10 months or so. I had been called to serve in the nursery the first week I attended church, and had a terrible time trying to meet new people. So, a few Sundays later, I was changing Nora in the mother's lounge. There was another woman sitting in there, nursing a beautiful blond baby boy. I was absolutely DESPERATE to make some friends. So, I decided to strike up a conversation with her. It went something like this:
"Hi, I'm Michelle. I'm new to the ward. Are you new too?"
"Yes, I'm new. I've only been here 3 weeks"
"Me too! Where did you move from?"
"South Carolina. We lived in Charleston."
"Wow, that's great. We moved from Columbia SC. My husband is in the Navy."
"Mine too."
"What did you say your name was?"
"Leisel."
You can imagine my surprise when she told me her name. I had to rush back to nursery and didn't have time to talk to her, so I asked her for her phone number and promised to call her that week. That afternoon, I got home from church and was telling Shawn all about my mother's room visit. I said, "So you'll never guess who I met at church today, a girl named Leisel." He looked at me like I was insane. Then he smiled and said something like, "Really? That's interesting. So you met your imaginary friend." The funny thing was, he thought I was MAKING IT UP!!! He thought I was either serious and crazy and had started to pretend that I had a friend named Leisel, or that I was just playing a joke on him. It was several weeks before he actually met her, and he really thought I was joking until I introduced them!
I don't think I told her about the imaginary friend thing for a while. We spent hours and hours together those first few months, and what an amazing girl! I was pregnant and SICK!!! I was also a little depressed and a total basket-case every single time she came to my house. She would get me glasses of water after I had lost my cookies in the porcelain express, she'd come and collect my toddlers while I was visiting the porcelain express, and she'd give me one of her infamous hugs every time I started to feel a little sad or afraid.
She is moving in a month. My little heart has been breaking all week just thinking about it, so I do my best to ignore it. Sometimes I wonder why on earth I bother making friends in the military. Someone always has to move. But, in the midst of my pitiful musings, I always come to the conclusion that it's worth it. Why?
Because she is the best friend I've made in my adult life. Thanks Leisel, for all you've done for me! I can't wait to come and visit you!!!!

12 comments:
That is so cool that you met your long, lost friend.
That is not cool that she is moving away.
NO wonder why you guys hit it off so well! I'm so happy that you were able to have Leisel there to help you out. I think each military member needs to have a good friend to get through life, no matter where you go. I'm glad you found her!
I am so sorry she is moving! Where to? I am so grateful for things like the internet that make it a little easier! Good luck!
What a sweet note to leave for Leisel to read! I'm sure she appreciates your friendship as much as you appreciate hers! I'm so glad you have a great friend back there with you! I love ya tons sweetie!
Michelle you are a cook. I am sure you are the one who daved my life, not the other way around. I want to add that I had seen and I think met you in the columbia temple. You were pregnant with Nora. That is a great place to meet friends. You are my best friend, and I hope to know you well for the rest of my life and beyond. Check out my ode to friend in you in box.
you made me cry eating my bowl of cheerios. i know how much she means to you. we all love her to pieces. saying good bye gets so old.
Oh man that stinks!! Sorry to hear about your friend. Hope you are doing ok.
so fun! I knew you had a friend named leisel. when and where is she moving? that is so sad, i'm sorry, but it'll be okay! I love you sis!
roo
How sad to lose a friend. Well, not really lost, just further away. But I must say your story made me laugh out loud. Avri has so many imaginary friends. I wonder if she will eve meet them... Calidol, Jeniman, Fajita...hmm, probably not.
I had an imaginary friend too> His name was Steamy-keed. i don't think I'll ever meet someone with that name. I'm kinda jealous of you.
update please! I want to see pictures of the 3 year old princess! love you!
andrea
I didn't know you and Leisel were so close. . .it's so hard to have your close friends move away.
I also totally agree with you and find that for me it is somehow so much harder to really make close friends during your adult life. I guess because you have so many responsibilities outside of just being someone's friend. Do you feel like you know the secret now? If so, could you fill me in?
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